- swinging from hope to disappointment every month
- impatient and wondering if it’s ever going to happen for you
- jealous as you see other – perhaps less deserving women – get pregnant easily … by accident even!
- isolated from friends and family if you’re not wanting everyone to know that you’re trying for a baby
- frustrated as all you seem to notice now is mums with children and women with HUGE pregnant bumps (looking happy and radiant).
Emotionally you will probably have visited all of the above and more, much, much more.
And have you noticed that they’re all NEGATIVE emotions. And holding these negative emotional states will put you into a negative state of mind. And if you’re holding a negative state of mind, you’re body is likely to be listening.
Getting pregnant happens unconsciously, which means you have to harness the power of your mind at a deep, unconscious, level.
Wanting, hoping, deciding to get pregnant are states of the conscious mind. Knowingness and certainty (especially in the face of evidence to the contrary) are states of the unconscious.
Your unconscious mind runs your body, so harnessing the power of your unconscious mind is vital if you want your body to do anything.
Knowing and expecting that you’re going to get pregnant somehow, some day, is a much more powerful state than hoping you’ll get pregnant.
There’s lots of anecdotal evidence of women trying to get pregnant then, as soon as they:
- go on holiday
- adopt a child
- focus on a career move, new house, special project
- stop trying and resign themselves to the fact it’s not going to happen,
they get pregnant!
Your thinking may not actually cause you to get pregnant, rather, it’s more likely that it can lower your chances of getting pregnant. Wanting and needing are disempowering states of mind and often cause you to focus on what you DON’T want, causing you to attract more of what you don’t want, rather than what you do want. So, make sure you harness the power of your unconscious mind to support what you want, rather than what you don’t want.
And how do you do that? Well it may be a slightly different process for each individual, but there will be certain common features: learn to relax and visualise; remove any mental and emotional barriers to getting pregnant; make sure your belief system supports your desire to get pregnant; and focus on what you want, rather than what you don’t want.
Having your mind and body working together in harmony to support your efforts to get pregnant, will not only make the journey much more pleasant, but it may actually make your results more effective.
So, to answer the question, “Can you think yourself pregnant?”, the honest answer is, nobody really knows. All the negative emotions associated with TRYING to get pregnant can certainly be stressful and that stress may have a significant impact on your hormones, creating imbalances which may contribute to reduced fertility. Having a positive mindset will make the journey more bearable and you never know, it might help you get pregnant sooner.