Stressed That You’re Not Getting Pregnant? Just Relax!


relaxI know, I know, I know, if you’ve heard the “just relax” line once you’ve probably heard it a million times!

And how can you “just relax”, when you’re desperate to fall pregnant and it’s not happening and, at the back of your mind, is the thought that it might never happen.

Doesn’t it just make you want to scream to hear such platitudes!  Especially when you know they’re saying it with your best interests at heart.  Don’t they know how difficult it is?  No matter how you try to keep your mind off things, to keep busy and occupied, there’s a part of you that just keeps picking away at the waiting to get pregnant issue, like a scab that is never allowed to heal.

Well, irritating thought it may be, it’s sound advice.  Being relaxed has physical, mental and emotional benefits which may well improve your chance of getting pregnant.  Now, I’m not suggesting that just relaxing will get you pregnant, but there definitely is some evidence to suggest that being stressed will reduce your chances of getting pregnant.

When you relax you enter a state which is completely opposite to being under pressure or stressed.  Relaxation allows your body to neutralise the stress chemicals and activates your repair and renewal processes.

A study at the University of Western Australia found that women were more likely to conceive during periods when they are relaxed rather than stressed.  And a study at Trakya University in Turkey found that stress reduces sperm count and motility, suggesting that relaxation may also boost male fertility.

Studies have also shown that relaxation can reduce symptoms of irritable bowel syndrome, reduce blood pressure, and improve conditions such as arthritis, asthma, skin conditions such as psoriasis and heart disease.

Research at Harvard Medical School has shown that deep relaxation changes our bodies on a genetic level:  long term practitioners of relaxation methods, such as yoga and meditation, have far more active “disease-fighting genes” compared to those who practised no form of relaxation.  In particular, they found that genes that protect from disorders such as pain, infertility, high blood pressure and even rheumatoid arthritis were switched on.  These experiments at Harvard showed just how responsive genes are to behaviour, mood, environment and revealed that genes can just as easily be switched on as they switch off.

But saying “just relax” isn’t that helpful – it can even make you more tense …

So go for a therapy treatment, join a yoga class, do some Transendental Meditation, get a relaxation CD or even go for walk.  Little and often will be much more helpful to get you into a deeply relaxed state than, for example, a one hour session weekly.  So you can’t use the excuse that you’ve no time!

Try 15 minutes of relaxation every day for a month and notice how differently you will feel.

Can You Insist On Getting Pregnant?

Determined To SucceedA while ago, I was listening on Youtube to Martin Broffman, a healer, talking about – well, you guessed it … healing.

His talk was aimed at people who were ill and wanted to get better and I was very struck by his emphasis on INSISTING that something be so.

He was suggesting to people who were ill, that they should insist that their body heal itself, and the idea stopped me in my tracks.

Aren’t words powerful! And “insist” for me, is a powerful word.

Here’s a dictionary definition:

“demand something forcefully, not accepting refusal, stand firm, be firm, stand one’s ground, make a stand, stand up for oneself, be resolute, be determined, show determination, hold on, hold out, be emphatic, not take no for an answer, brook no refusal, persevere, persist, not give up, keep on at someone, stick to one’s guns, stick it out, hang in there.”

Insist doesn’t mean control, or manipulate, it’s not airy fairy or full of drama or hope, but neither is it’s not about trying or making things happen.  It’s about expecting that something will happen, about being resolute, determined, persistent and not taking no for an answer.

When you insist something will be so, you are resolved, congruent (all of you wants it), calm and detached, confident of the outcome, prepared to continue until you achieve that outcome.  Insist, is a word of certainty and relentless determination, it’s a word that recognises no other outcome than that being insisted upon.

If you are completely 100% insistent that something should happen, and you have resolve that nothing will stop you, your mind and body can hardly fail but to respond – or at least there is a much better chance that they will.

For example, I have met a  woman who had gone through 6 rounds of IVF, who began to suffer regular migraine headaches after her first round of hormone injections, and who, eventually, did have a child.  I suspect she was very insistent!

How insistent could you be?

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