If you’re worried that there is a physical problem that’s preventing you from conceiving, it’s understandable that positive thinking and visualisation might seem like a waste of time, but if the following exercise works for you, you may just change your mind.
Anything and everything we say about the future if a big, fat lie. The future doesn’t exist yet, so we can’t know what will happen until it actually happens. We may know the most likely outcome, but it’s not a fact until it actually comes about, and so there’s always some level of uncertainty.
Now, we tell ourselves big fat lies about the future, all the time – it’s natural. We create scenarios about what we think might happen, and more often than not, those scenarios that we have imagined become the reality.
What photo albums, slideshows or movies are you creating about your future?
After all, if the future doesn’t exist, and everything you project into the future is a lie, you might as well tell big, fat, helpful lies, that anticipate what you want. All too often, we tell big, fat lies that are the opposite of what we actually want. But life will be much more comfortable if you’re imagining a future in which you get everything you want.
Why not sit down right now, this very minute, and write down a list of what you want over the next year. Really go for it! It doesn’t matter if you can’t imagine how it might happen – the object of this exercise is just to list your heart’s desires.
Now take a bit more time and get nice and relaxed. Go into a daydream state and imagine how it would be if you realised each of these dreams. Take each desire and imagine: how would you feel? What would you be saying to yourself and others? What would others be saying to you? Imagine a picture of you having realised your dream – make the picture bright and closer and then turn the picture into a movie. Give your movie a soundtrack. Imagine yourself as the star of the movie, taking part, looking through your own eyes.
Once you’ve done that, sit down with a pen and paper and write a letter to your best friend and supporter – the person who would be most pleased to hear that you had realised your heart’s desires. Write the letter as if you hadn’t seen them for a year and were telling them all the wonderful things that have happened to you in the past year.
Keep the letter and look it out again in a year and see how much has changed. Of course, if you’ve read this, but haven’t taken the time and effort to actually DO the exercise, you may not be quite as successful.
WARNING: This exercise may work better than you expect, so make sure you ask for what you really want!
Something to remember when doing this exercise: getting pregnant is only the first step in having a healthy baby, so make sure you envisage not just getting pregnant, but also having a healthy and happy pregnancy within a loving relationship, having a trouble free birth and a strong healthy baby, not to mention staying fit and healthy yourself!