One of your key concerns when you want to get pregnant is making sure you “beat the clock“: that you get pregnant before nature takes it’s course and egg numbers and quality reduce. It can be a real psychological pressure that uses up lots of emotional and intellectual energy.
Could you be too depleted to conceive?
If you invest lots of emotional energy in your desire to get pregnant and it’s taking a while, you may be running down your reserves of physical, emotional and psychological energy. That investment of your energy may be counter-productive because it may be creating a resistance that actually works against you.
Did you see my video about “Trying Too Hard”? If not, the link is at the bottom of this piece and it gives an insight into the negative effects of trying too hard and how it can create resistance.
Resistance inhibits the flow of energy and it’s a source of stress. Resistance is like trying to drive with the brakes on: you’re trying to move forward, but there’s a drag on that effort and the harder you try to move forward, the stronger the drag. So what creates that resistance?
Emotional factors such as fear (of never getting pregnant), or trying too hard, or wanting a baby too much (in an obsessive way), or not believing you deserve to get pregnant or that you can’t get pregnant – will all create a drag, a resistance to the natural flow of life.
Are you creating resistance? Are you getting in your own way? Are you making it more difficult than you need to?
If so, write a list of all the ways in which you may be making life more difficult for yourself than it needs to be – for all areas of your life, not just your baby-making efforts. And now for each item on your list, write down three things you might do instead to make your life lighter and easier. You’ll find it releases a huge amount of energy and allows you to be more yourself.
How I make my life more difficult Solutions
I’m constantly thinking about getting pregnant I’m going to distract myself with X, Y or Z
I’m going to harness my thoughts about getting pregnant by doing research about how I can improve my chances of getting pregnant
I’m going to do a visualisation every day, so that when I think about getting pregnant, it’s in a positive way
Give yourself permission to think of solutions that are simple and easy to apply – and maybe even a bit whacky! Allow yourself to become free of resistance and you will find it is possible to attract great things with ease and grace.
If you haven’t already seen it, check out my video on “Trying Too Hard”.
And if you want more help in overcoming some of the emotional challenges on your baby-making journey, join the FREE Baby Making Mindset Club – it’s a private facebook group where you can connect with other women to give and get support.