If you’re struggling with fertility issues, you may feel that you’re trapped in a cycle of hoping and being disappointed. You may feel you’re on that emotional rollercoaster, feeling angry, sad, disappointed, jealous, impatient, obsessed and all the other swings that can take place every month. You may feel locked into that emotional vortex that involves desperately wanting something that seems constantly just out of reach. I’d like if I may, to ask you to stop for a few moments and take a step back from your life. To look at yourself objectively and ask yourself:
- Do I feel stuck in my current situation?
- Am I struggling against my current circumstances, trying to change things as they are now?
- Is that struggle exhausting and depleting me?
- Do I find myself constantly comparing where I am now against where I would like to be and feeling down because of the m
- Am I constantly focused on the future and ignoring the present moment?
As you ponder these questions, have you noticed if you are creating a huge resistance to your current life circumstances, because you so want something quite different? Can you see how that struggle and resistance might be depleting your resources – mental, emotional and physical? Has it occurred to you that you make it much more difficult for yourself to move forward into something positive and more hopeful if you spend every minute of today battling against what you DON’T want?
In order to move on to a brighter future, it’s necessary to accept what is, just for today. Now acceptance doesn’t mean giving up, not at all. What acceptance does is release all that resistance and allow you to channel your energy into a brighter future. Acceptance allows you to release what you don’t want and frees you to focus on what you do want.
Acceptance says “just for today this is my situation”, but it also allows the possibility that tomorrow may be completely different. And because you accept that things are as they are today, doesn’t mean that you can’t be working today to make circumstances change tomorrow.
Acceptance of things as they are today, releases you from all the questions: Why me? Could I have done more? What if? etc, etc, etc. It allows you, both on a conscious and unconscious level to acknowledge the current situation, to release resistance to it and it permits you to channel your energy into what you want, rather than what you don’t want.
Acceptance puts you in the moment – this is how it is NOW. It doesn’t mean you agree that the situation is OK, or that you have to accept it forever more. Acceptance means that you recognise that for this moment in time, this is the way it is. And this is important, because now is where you have the power to make changes: to change the way you’ve always done it, felt about it, thought about it. What you desire for the future exists in what you do, how you feel and what you think NOW! So how do you get to acceptance, it can be a real challenge!
Here’s a little exercise to get you into practice: Pick a small thing you’d like to change, something that you struggle with a bit. Sit quietly and focus on this thing. Accept that for now it’s a part of your life. And once you feel that you’ve accepted it and come to terms with the fact that this thing you’ve been focusing on “is what it is”, notice if you feel more relaxed – after all you’ve released something you’ve been struggling with. And now, imagine what you’d like instead, in great detail, until you feel really compelled towards this much more attractive future.
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